He tells you that he hosts large business meetings here so they take very good care of him. Maybe you were just sharing and showing him that you have things in common.
The problem is that the men you want are the ones who want to impress you. You can share your story…just not yet. Simply receive his information and acknowledge it before you fire back. Take a breath, smile, and give him his due appreciation. Tell him how cool it is that he has this connection, especially since it set you up to enjoy this lovely restaurant with him.
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Now it will be his turn to be impressed. As the conversation continues, he asks you about your business. What do you do? Maybe you list some: their investments, payroll, taxes…blah, blah, blah. The conversation then takes one of two paths: talk about his career or further talk about the financial needs of businesses. Oh…hot conversation indeed! Smart men want to hear about your successful career and want to know that you can keep up, even surpass them, intellectually. But men deal with the alpha-side of women all day long. At home, they want a lover, not a colleague.
This is the feminine energy they crave. Instead of listing your degrees, accomplishments and daily tasks, focus on why you chose your career and what you get out of it. Yah, you also like the challenge, professional recognition, etc. It shifts the conversation from accomplishments and tactics the workplace to one of feelings and values the relationship place. Share your accomplishments and the things you are proud of in your life, but do it in a way that lets him see the whole You.
All I have to do is look at my husband and the partners of countless women who are friends and clients, and I know for a fact that grownup men want smart, accomplished women as partners, lovers and wives. They just want the softer and supportive side of you in equal measure. When you think about it, it costs you nothing to make these simple shifts in communication, and the payoff can be huge: the love and respect of a fabulous man. Try it on your next date, or even with the men in your office, and let me know how it goes! When you start talking about what you DO, add the phrase: because… and fill it in.
Making these small shifts will attract the smart men. And lead to deeper, more meaningful conversations discussing where you went to college or how many people work for you. Try it on your next date, with a colleague or even in your next email to a potential online date. Let me know what happens in the comments below. Your help is right here Eileen. I give you over articles. If you only change one thing about your dealings with men, consider this one. Soften your response, show enthusiasm when listening to men and enjoy the moment.
Is actually sweet to see how happy this polite gesture can make men feel, they flourish right in front of you. It feels good to make another person feel good. I learned the hard way and looking back, suspect I lost some good opportunities as a result. Had no clue it actually punched the air out of their balloons until I noticed my response when people did it to me. Good going on making this tweak. And I would think that a man who goes out of his way to impress a woman…has insecurities. I would also think that a first meeting, where there is a real connection, would feel comfortable, almost as if you are old friends.
A meeting where you feel open to just be yourself. I would rather make jokes, laugh, and just enjoy the time. See if the humor and wit matches. No wonder I am bad at dating. People are not a sum of their accomplishments and achievements, but are rather individuals of many characteristics. But I am not a dating coach.
I would just always advise to be yourself.
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People have to like you at your raw core before anything else is possible. Just my 2 cents. I have to tell you, I just love your no nonsense advice BP. All of your posts are spot-on. My question to you is regarding women taking too much of a lead in the early stages of a relationship. I was matched with a guy on Bumble, we had great banter, and he eventually asked me out for drinks after a lengthy get-to-know-you via text. He confessed right before meeting up that he gets really nervous with women, and it showed, though we still had a nice time chatting for over two hours.
At the end of the night he was a Maybe for me. We texted more that evening, and he mentioned wanting to meet again. Fast forward a few days later, we had texted, but not a ton, and I eventually offered to make him dinner at my place to say thanks for a lovely day on his boat. My question for you, should I have sat pretty, waiting for him to ask my on a proper dinner date?
I know enough to sit on my fingers for now, and let him initiate texting this week. Just curious your thoughts, have I already killed the game?? Thank you in advance for your thoughts and advice! Hi Lynn. It sounds like you are handling things well with this gentleman so far.
If you do end up having dinner at your place and you still feel like spending more time with him just let him know that. He knows you are interested and if he is too, he will make the next move. No need to take any more initiative or ask him out specifically.certnajusne.cf
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Just chalk it up to learning and move on. Good either way! You are so on point. As strong women we have to hide our strengths and give in to Male egos to attract a strong intellectual Male.
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Fuck you. This heading is wrong or just blatantly misleading. It say absolutely nothing about how to attract a smart man. If you are already dating him or on a date with him, you have already attracted him. The title for this article was not very smart. Gee Monica, tell you what: when you publish a blog that attracts hundreds of thousands of people and when you help thousands of women find love…then maybe you will have earned the right to diss other professionals.
Or nice people. Gee Monica, tell you what: when YOU publish your own blog and attract hundreds of thousands of people to it, maybe you will earn the right to diss me and my wor. This is probably the most succinct, practical advice I have ever read.
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Thank you, Bobbi; that is a game-changer. Love to hear that Trisha!! Now go out and keep being smart, in a smart way. If she makes good eye contact, is conversational, comes across as truly interested in getting to know me, is my intellectual and maturity equal, those are qualities that I hope to see in a lady. Unfortunately I did not read this advice sooner and have driven my man away, as he is now ignoring me.
Such a pity. If only, we women, were willing to listen and try. Not forgetting what we learned from our bad experiences, but not allowing that to be our measuring stick for future relationships. Although, I was once shattered, I realize I am no longer living in those moments. Enjoyed this article, btw. I am an attractive female, but I am also smart too.
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Most of the time, when I turn the convo from sexual to intellectual, they are turned off by then. Where are the smart and attractive guys??? Abby, I really like your perspective. You sound like a nice, mature person with a good head on your shoulders. I am a divorced year-old man with an MBA. Not much higher, but above the line.